la la land

La la land is a phrase that I think means “out to lunch” “gone fishing”  or OTF ( out there flapping). It’s not fairy tale land, but close. I think of this when someone is not in sync, doesn’t grasp the reality of a situation or can’t see past the superficial facts. Example: You are struggling and they ask you to do more. Example: You are planning to leave the country and they want to act like its not happening.

Have you ever just felt your eyes boggling and wondered how people can be so far off the same course? How can we stand side by side and not see the same things, hear the same things or think the same things. Oh, yeah. They wrote a whole book about this. Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. 🙂 What am I thinking?

I have been to La La Land. It’s a scary place. There are no signs. There are no instructions. There are no rules. There are no directions. It’s a situation where you wander in at will and hope you get out. You could fall down the proverbial rabbit hole like Alice. What do I mean? I mean when my mother told me once, “You will wake up one day”. I didn’t know what she meant. I guess that’s because I was there. In “la la land”. I thought that what I saw and understood was “all there was” and I lived in a black and white world of my own creation. I just have one question-

Why are our parents always right?  One day, I did wake up. I finally understood what she meant, but could only see it when it was my time.

I supposed I should be more tolerant of others who are still blissfully unaware that there is more to life than a Friday night date. What man of 60 thinks like that? There is more to think about than whether you have to work on Tuesday or Friday. Days are days. As I sit here crunching on freezing cold drumstick ice cream out of the box and watching dust bunnies pool under the furniture, I wonder what I should be more aware of. My own shortcomings!! By crackies, I should forget the la la land of others and worry about my own silly self.

So, there you go. That’s what I learned today. Never mind what you can’t explain. Worry about what you know to do and do that. Worry about your own little red wagon. Operate in all the wisdom and grace you have been able to attain and let others find their own way in their own time. I can put Edy’s away now. This mystery of life, is not bothering me a minute longer. :D)

PS: I am a parent too. So, I get to make these same statements to my children ( like my mother did to me) and one day, they will recount how brilliant I was- knowing things they could only understand as they experienced them or grew into their highest selves. How comforting!!! Better than Edy’s….well, as good as, anyway! The most comforting place would be between these two snuggle bugs- unconditional love and acceptance- to and from each other. I wonder if one day I will find contentment in such a simple place- Melia and Lily have it made!!